The time has come. The time I have been dreading but knowing I have to do. I’ve held off because I didn’t know how to go about it. What I did know was that it had to be on God’s terms and not mine. Today is March 5th and I returned to my journal from 2 years ago and re-read what I wrote, asking God how I should proceed because the last thing I want to do is invite negativity. How can I write about this particular season (2022 in general) without revealing too much and/or hurting others? What’s my motive? I don’t know exactly but I DO know it’s not what it once was. My heart has changed. So I’m just going to go with what I was doing before and share the journal entries; of course, not using names and omitting certain details that aren’t necessary.
For context, I was involved in an online “club” for women where we did daily devotionals (more on that later), our house was under construction, I was off my bipolar medication, I was drinking my cannabis in very high doses, was 12 days without cigarettes, it was Lent and I was growing exponentially in my faith.
March 5, 2022
Mary & Elizabeth – it’s not an accident that we would be looking at Mary & Elizabeth’s relationship as I am, once again, struggling with a certain friendship. I can’t really focus on the devotional questions, as I am so gravely disturbed by what God is revealing to me. Like, it is very upsetting, and I must address it. But it’s so hard for me. It’s SO hard. After our rather frustrating conversation about an ongoing topic that I didn’t understand, I prayed to God that I wasn’t going to do this anymore. That if we were supposed to be friends, to show me how to be the friend she needs. Show me where I was wrong and how I can be better – because she has always compared our roles in the friendship – who’s the better friend – saying she is a better friend that I am to her; she gives more than I give, etc. I prayed for God to show me – help me be better – or take her out of my life. Because when we get in these things, I am affected in a way that it transfers onto my family. I’m so scared God is telling me to walk away. She says she’s confident in what God tells her. Well, so am I. I have never been more convicted of the things he is showing me about her. When I want to defend myself, she calls it gaslighting. I know what gaslighting is and she is misusing it. I had to even google the misuse of it and I was right. People are using the term to describe anyone who doesn’t confirm their beliefs. If someone disagrees with you, and it’s something that you feel passionate about, if you want to share your position, you are accused of “gaslighting” and it is exactly what she does to me. I am not wanting to manipulate her or question her sanity, I want to stand up for myself because her accusations are baseless and flat out incorrect. The “taste in my mouth” is so foul – God, please help me!
I am finishing this blog post on March 6, 2024 – exactly 2 years since our last interaction through text. This wasn’t the first time we’d stop talking for an extended period of time. All the other times were on her terms and reconnecting was always on her terms as well. But this time, it was me. I didn’t want to, but I had to. I did it because this wasn’t just your run of the mill disagreement. It was something far bigger and I was in fear.
That’s how the enemy (aka the devil) works when you are drawing closer to God and aligning your will with His. He attacks. Spiritual warfare. The battle was real, and I had to retreat without saying another word.
And I won’t say another word about this situation here on the blog again. To this former bestie, if you’re reading this, and I’m pretty sure you are, you have been on my heart a lot lately. Please know I love you and I forgive you. There is much more to say but it shall remain between us until God makes a way for us to meet again. If that is His will.
Anyway, bringing it back to the subject of spiritual warfare, it was ON.
And things were about to get worse.
#morewillberevealed
Oh my gosh and a big PS: I am now 2 months and 3 days without a cigarette. And I think I did need to use the patches a little longer than 2 weeks this time but still less than 30 days. BOOM!